Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Update

Just for you, Matt, more on my boobs!

So I've been nursing Emma every 2-4 hours for the past week and giving her a 4 ounce bottle about every other session. She's already getting chunkier, and is still happy as ever. Supply is up a little, but not much. Got an email back from a La Leche League leader, and I'll be calling her tomorrow.

I'm exhausted after 24 hours with my sister-in-law and her two kids. I offered to take the three of them to dinner last night with me, Alex and Emma, and wow - I can't imagine doing that alone - women who want more than two kids are crazy. I say that as lovingly as possible, but seriously - CRAZY. And it really wasn't the babies who were nuts, it was the 3 and 4 year olds. I think Kristy and I got two words in to each other, the rest were telling the kids to knock it off or making sure to feed them something.

And Alex? I don't know who invaded his head the past 24 hours, but he was a little snot. I think the jealous sibling attitude is finally hitting him - and he took it out on Jazlyn. Unfortunately, they both have the firstborn, strong-willed child personality and they try to boss each other around, and Alex is having a hard time remembering to use his words before smacking or kicking. I think 2 weeks of unstructured Mommy time (he hasn't been in daycare because of the snow, the holidays, and this trip) has made him excited to get back to school. (Shh...I know I'm ready to get him back there too!)

Anyway, I'm exhausted and I know for a fact that I'm not having any more kids. 2 is perfect. One for each hand, one for each parent. Now if I could just convince Scott...

Friday, December 26, 2008

Wow, can this kid EAT

Maybe it's because the poor thing has been starving for a month now, or because I have so little milk for her, but since Monday I've been nursing Emma every 2-3 hours AND offering her a 4 ounce bottle afterward - and she takes it all, without spitting anything up. Add that to the occasional solids I've been giving her and the kid is flippin' ravenous. Now I'm worried that she's getting too much, instead of too little.

I've been having other people feed Emma her bottle, since I don't want her to think she gets anything but breast from me. So I asked Scott's aunt on Christmas Eve to feed her. While we were talking, she said, "Oh, I loved breastfeeding so much. It was the easiest thing in the world."

Seriously? Granted, she didn't know of all my difficulties. All I could think to say was, "Oh, this has NOT been easy. By any stretch."

Scott asked me last night what I think is wrong. Honestly, it could be one of a million things - I'm not eating enough calories, I'm getting enough calories but not enough of the right things, I'm stressing too much about it, I'm not resting enough, not getting enough exercise... I wish I knew. The only thing I can do is attempt to address all of those issues the way I have been. Which hasn't been working.

Gah. I'm contemplating talking to the lactation nazis about it, but I imagine they won't tell me anything I don't know.

Anyway, Christmas posts coming soon - our camera has been acting up and won't upload the pics to the computer so it might be a little while. Hope everyone had a merry Christmas!

Monday, December 22, 2008

Current mood: depressed

So at the doc today I found out Emma's weight. 14 lb 14 oz. Two ounces LIGHTER than her last weight a MONTH ago. You know, I could be wrong, but I thought that babies were supposed to get HEAVIER with time.

So if my struggle with breastfeeding over the past 7 months hasn't been evidence enough, the fact that she's actually LOSING weight tells me it's time to do something else. Which, let me tell ya, is heartbreaking. I thought it was WORKING, people. I thought my boobs WORKED, for chrissake. I thought my beautiful, happy, smiley baby was getting all she needed. She's been getting solid foods lately too - cereal, veggies, fruits, Cheerios, Gerber puffs - we even started yogurt a few weeks ago.

I don't know what to do at this point. I've worked my ass off trying to get this nursing thing to work for so long now that it would be pointless to quit, but I know that if I start supplementing it'll screw with my supply even more.

But honestly, I'm tired of worrying about it. I'm tired of taking 20 pills a day of vitamins, calcium, fenugreek and blessed thistle just to find out that I'm depriving my precious baby girl of what she needs. I'm tired of Scott thinking I stink because the fenugreek comes out your pores (it smells like licorice, which he apparently hates). I'm tired of the stupid nursing bras and restricted clothing choices. I'm tired of having to eat oatmeal every morning for breakfast to make sure I'm getting my protein (although I'm sure my cholesterol levels are better now). I'm tired of worrying that if I skip one feeding for a goddamned date night that my supply will drop and I'll have to add two pumping sessions a day for the next week to make up for it. I'm tired of pumping 3 times a day at work and not even getting enough milk for one (yeah, ONE) 4 ounce bottle. (Side note - everyone told me, and everything I read said, that you can't ever get out as much with a pump as the baby can get out. In other words, I shouldn't worry that I'm lucky if I pump an ounce and a half each session - baby's getting more than that. Riiiight.) Bottom line - I'm just fucking tired.

Will I keep doing it? Damn right I will. I'm not going to stop until my boobs decide otherwise, or I reach one year, whichever comes first. I just need to decide if I want to spend the next two weeks power-nursing - feeding her once every hour and hoping that works to increase my supply - or just say fuck it and start giving her a bottle after each feeding.

I'm leaning towards the fuck-it side of things.

I don't know. We'll see. I just want to do what's best for Emma, because obviously whatever I've been doing isn't. And I don't know what else to try anymore. And I'm tired of trying.

Sunday, December 21, 2008

Go Emma!

So yesterday Emma had a big day - she started clapping, high-fiving and saying "ba-ba-ba" and "va-va-va" all in one day! So far she's pretty much only managed high-pitched squeals and the occasional "ma-ma-ma" (which, since it usually only happens when I'm out of the room, has my mom convinced she actually knows what it means).

I also think the poor thing has a UTI - we took her to the doc today, despite the snow. But she's awfully freakin' happy despite any discomfort - now that she has discovered a volume other than "deafening" to her voice, she is talking constantly and varying tone and level. I asked her to high-five me last night and I swear she said "ai-aive." :-)

I'll have more pics of Emma and more pics of SNOW! very soon.

Can you say BUSY?

So here's a sample of what we've been up to in the past two weeks.

Cake decorating. Took the first of four classes last week and made 4 (yes, 4) cakes this past week for various different occasions. Here are 3 of them (I forgot to get a pic of my mom's birthday cake).






Alex's Tae Kwon Do test. He passed! (And seriously, what is it with kids' feet? I love how cute his little toes are.)





SNOW! We have at least six inches out in front of our house right now. It's GORGEOUS. This is what it looked like yesterday. It's deeper today.



I found Alex's first Christmas outfit. What's funny is that Alex was only 3 months old at his first Christmas, but the outfit is a 9 month sleeper. And it's big on Emma, who is 7 months. :-) Alex is in the second picture.





Emma had her first bath sitting up. Up until now I put her in a bather that lies her down. She really liked it - she discovered splashing. Alex, again, is in the second picture. I love that I accidentally get these shots - I usually don't intend to replicate pics I took of Alex, I just happen to see that they match after I get one of Emma.





OK, I'm done for the night. But I've got two weeks off of school, so I guarantee there will be lots of posting for awhile! YAY! :-)

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Don't get me started...

..oh wait, there I go.

So my dad forwards this thing on to me the other day. He now seems to be on this "I've never said a word about religion during my childrens' whole lives, and now my daughter's an atheist so I have to convince her otherwise" thing. Which is kind of interesting. But he's very passive-aggressive about it - twice he's sent me emails and once he said something to Alex.

Anyway, he sent this to me. I've only excerpted here, because the rest of it isn't really relevant. Forgive the typos, they aren't mine and I don't feel like editing.

"The following was written by Ben Stein and recited by him on CBS Sunday Morning Commentary.

Billy Graham's daughter was interviewed on the Early Show and Jane Clayson asked her 'How could God let something like this happen?' (regarding Katrina) Anne Graham gave an extremely profound and insightful response. She said, 'I believe God is deeply saddened by this, just as we are, but for years we've been telling God to get out of our schools, to get out of our government and to get out of our lives. And being the gentleman He is, I believe He has calmly backed out. How can we expect God to give us His blessing and His protection if we demand He leave us alone?'

In light of recent events... Terrorists attack, school shootings, etc. I think it started when Madeleine Murray O'Hare (she was murdered, her body found a few years ago) complained she didn't want prayer in our schools, and we said OK. Then someone said you better not read the Bible in school. The Bible says thou shalt not kill, thou shalt not steal, and love your neighbor as yourself. And we said OK.

Then Dr. Benjamin Spock said we shouldn't spank our children when they misbehave because their little personalities would be warped and we might damage their self-esteem (Dr. Spock's son committed suicide). We said an expert should know what he's talking about. And we said OK.

Now we're asking ourselves why our children have no conscience, why they don't know right from wrong, and why it doesn't bother them to kill strangers, their classmates, and themselves.

Probably, if we think about it long and hard enough, we can figure it out. I think it has a great deal to do with 'WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.'"


Now, by no means am I trying to pick on anyone of any faith. I recognize that faith is a very personal and important thing to many people. The thing that pisses me off is that, once again, people REFUSE to put blame where blame deserves to be placed: at the feet of people and their OWN ACTIONS. Or, in the case of the hurricanes - WEATHER PATTERNS. 'Cause, you know, there have NEVER EVER been hurricanes in Florida. Or Texas. Or Louisiana. EVER. The terrorist attacks? Not the fault of a group of religious fanatics who believe that we are the enemy - they're the result of Americans asking God to get out of our lives.

Oh, and the Madeleine Murray O'Hare thing? I love how in parentheses it mentions that she was murdered. Because she DIDN'T WANT PRAYER in our schools! She was murdered! Because she turned her back on God! Oh, and the whole Dr. Spock thing - his son committed suicide! What irony! And it TOTALLY had everything to do with his father not spanking him! (I have no idea why that happened, I just find it interesting how this particular email paints it that way.) Oh, and yeah, because I don't teach the Bible in my classroom, I'm telling kids they should kill and steal and hate their neighbors. Right.

The thing I DO agree with is the "you reap what you sow" comment. I don't think it has ANYTHING to do with God, but I do believe it has to do with personal responsibility. You don't want to lose your Airstream to a hurricane? Don't live on the Gulf Coast!

Ugh. You know what? Believe whatever you want to. More power to you. But don't you dare tell me bad things happen in this world because we turned our backs on God. Bad things happen in this world because life is not BLACK AND WHITE. There will always be people doing bad things to other people. There will always be natural disasters causing damage and people to lose lives and homes. Even if you get the entire world to believe in one particular religion or god, you still won't be able to control the thoughts and actions of all those people, and therefore, there will STILL BE BAD THINGS HAPPENING. And even if you get every single person in the world to believe in one god, one religion, one day a tsunami will still take out half of an island nation DESPITE WHAT THEY BELIEVE.

Gah! OK, I'm off to go play a game with my son, because I don't want him to become a trenchcoat-wearing murderer. I might throw in a spanking or two, just to keep him in line.

Double GAH!

Friday, December 19, 2008

2008 Year-in-Review

Where​ did you begin​ 2008?
At Justin and Kelly's apartment. I was pregnant, so no repeat of my shenanigans from a few years ago. (You know, the "dress-up" incident. We shall NOT discuss.)

What was your statu​s by Valen​tine'​s Day?
Happily married...as usual. :-)

Did you have to go to the hospi​tal?​
Yup. There's this thing called childbirth.

Did you have any encou​nters​ with the polic​e?​
Hmm...does my friend Miles count? ;-)

Where​ did you go on vacat​ion?​
Went camping a few times this summer. With a newborn. Which was actually easier than it sounds.

What did you purch​ase that was over $​500?​
Our freakin' obnoxious-screen TV. 56".
Tell me, why in the hell does ANYONE need that much TV?

Did you know anybo​dy who got marri​ed?​
Yup! Teri and Tod, Alex and Matt, Scott and Becky...wow, this was a slow year. We usually have at LEAST 5 weddings to go to. Come on people, get crackin'! (Nic, I'm talking to you!) ;-)

Did you know anybo​dy who passe​d away?​
Not personally.

What sport​ing event​s did you atten​d?​
None...unless you count walking onto Qwest field when I took my kids to meet the Seahawks. But it wasn't actually a game.

What conce​rts/​shows​ did you go to?
Went to the Comedy Underground once.

Where​ do you live now?
University Place. Hope to stay.

Descr​ibe your birth​day.
I don't remember. I think we probably just went to dinner or something.

What'​s the one thing​ you thoug​ht you would​ never​ do but did in 2008?​
Managed to breastfeed my daughter! I didn't think I would make it as long as I have!

What has/​have been your favor​ite momen​t(​s)​?​
Finding out I was having a GIRL!
Seeing my baby girl for the first time.
Realizing that I can be happy! It just took a few months of DRUGS! Hehehehe...
Watching Alex take his test for his yellow belt in Tae Kwon Do and PASSING!

Any new addit​ions to your famil​y?​
Emma Michelle, 5/6/08, 9 lb. 13 oz., 21 1/4 inches
Matsen Wesley, 6/20/08 (my new nephew)
And I found out that two of my best friends will be having babies in '09, Kelly (it's a BOY!) and Sara (HOLY CRAP, it's TWINS!).

What was your best month​?​
May. Definitely. :-)

Who has been your best drink​ing buddy​?​
Well, let's see. I was pregnant from Jan. to May, and breastfeeding from May until now, so WHEN exactly have I had a chance to go drinking? Dammit?

Made new frien​ds?​
Not really, been kinda busy. Kept up with the old ones.

Favor​ite Night​[​s]​ out?
Haven't had many of those this year. This is seriously going to make a few people puke, but my favorite nights have been the ones when Emma actually wakes up in the middle of the night to eat. (She's such a good baby, she VERY rarely does that.) It's another 20 minutes I get to spend with her. And she's cuddly when she's tired and hungry. She's not a very snuggly baby so I take it when I can get it. :-)

Any regre​ts?​
Regret is for those who don't appreciate what they have. :-) I'm extremely lucky that I have the things I have, and the choices I've made got me where I am. That and two kids have kept me so busy I don't have any time to do anything stupid. :-)

What do you want to chang​e in 2009?​
I'd like to increase my resume by getting a job teaching in another building.
I've been very lucky to be in the same school for 7 years and I've learned so much, but I know there's still so much more to learn!

Overa​ll,​ how would​ you rate this year?​
Scale of 1-10? 10. Probably my best ever. It has been a very good year.

Have any life chang​es in 2008?​
See above new additions. ;-)

Chang​e your hairs​tyle?​
Couple of times. I'm growing it out now. Tried large amounts of blonde most recently. I like it.

Get a new job?
Nope. Same job, same school. Although I took on a 4/5 split this year. Which is a challenge, to say the least. But I'm loving it.

How old did you turn this year?​
29.
Should I stop answering this honestly now?

Do you have a New Year'​s resol​ution​?​
Be a better mom and teacher.

Did anyth​ing embar​rassi​ng?​
Nothing that sticks out. I would say childbirth, but I had a c-section, so I didn't even have the opportunity to poop on the table. There were plenty of times that I finished nursing Emma and tried to fix my shirt but it didn't cooperate, so I'm sure I flashed a few people.

Get marri​ed or divor​ced?​
Neither.

Be hones​t - did you watch​ Ameri​can Idol?​
Nope. I'm all about So You Think You Can Dance.

Start​ a new hobby​?​
Cake decorating. Need a cake for an occasion? See me, I'm exploring what I can do right now.

Been snowb​oardi​ng?​
Nope

Are you happy​ to see 2008 go?
Actually yes, but only because I'm excited to see what my kids will do in 2009.

Drank​ Starb​ucks in 2008?​
Duh.

Been naugh​ty or nice?​
Both. Hehehe... :-)

What are you wishi​ng for in 2009?​
Refinance the house, pay off the SUV, buy a bigger sedan, go to Hawaii in December, get a new teaching job somewhere...wow, this is going to be a big year!

Thursday, December 11, 2008